Thursday, March 19, 2009

Iron Will...

I am getting so frustrated by the sheer will that William has. He is so determined to do things, but then if you tell him "No" it seems like then he says "Well, Now I HAVE To Do It!" He acts so differently with me vs Jason. He will cling to me all day and strike out at me if I don't comply, and with Jason he will just play and read, and receives "No" non-chalantly. What does this mean and what do I do about it? I give him GOBS of attention all day, but it never seems to be enough. When I finally do have to go do something in the Kitchen he stands at the gate and screams until I either finish or pick him up. Arrgh. He is still struggling with the 2 nap/1 nap thing, which makes this all doubly hard. On a happy note, we received our lease renewal and rent is only going up 50 a month to $1570, and we got our Income Tax refund today! We now can pay off the surgery from that Damn cat we don't even have anymore!

4 comments:

Little Blessings said...

Keep at it with Will! The steel that is in their little bodies is amazing to me sometimes. Sometimes you just have to say no and not give in. Some parts of being a mom require a heart of stone. I know it isn't fun but the pay off in the end will absolutely be worth it. Andrew was such an easy baby that I thought I had it made. Then I had Zane, and then Lucy. Both are determined to push and test EVERY limit as often as possible. Maddening for sure, but all part of the parenting process.

Just think of it as a warm up. Instead of coming out of the womb fighting you on all night parties, hair styles and curfews they start with pick me up now and being demanding. Limits are important even for the babies. They function better with them. Even if they do test and retest every other day.

And maybe you need to force him to play by himself more. Maybe he sees you as his entertainment and there for his enjoyment and pleasure. I know that Lucy constantly wants my attention but if I am sitting and reading a book to myself then she eventually gets tired of how boring I am and gets down to find something (or someone) much more interesting than me. Who knows what it mean that he isn't snotty to Jason. Babies can sometimes just be weird like that.

Kelly and Jason said...

I think I do need to encourage him to play more on his own. I always thought if I gave him plenty of attention, then when I need to leave he would be fine, but that idea seems to have backfired! In fact I have never read anything in front of him, whenever I have tried he rips the book out of my hands and demands I read him one of his books. I am such a sucker!

Teresa Leigh said...

I fear this is the road I am going down. Booker already shows signs of this sort difference in attitude toward me and Travis. I am the one he gets pissy with.

Kelly and Jason said...

So unfair! He will be so calm and cool with Jason and I come in and BAM! He becomes a whiney mess!